Drunken texting is a universal experience, a rite of passage that often results in a morning filled with existential dread. Whether it’s messaging an ex, confessing your undying love to a friend, or sending a barely coherent string of emojis to your boss, the aftermath is rarely pretty. This article explores the five distinct emotional stages you go through after realizing you’ve sent a regrettable text while under the influence, and why, despite our best intentions, we never seem to learn our lesson.
Stage 1: Blissful Ignorance
For a brief, glorious period, you have no idea what you’ve done. You’re living in the moment, feeling invincible, laughing too loudly, and toasting to questionable decisions. Your phone is just an accessory, a tool for spreading joy (or chaos) as you continue your revelry. The idea that you might have made a terrible mistake hasn’t yet entered your mind. In fact, you might even believe you’ve sent the funniest or most heartfelt message ever composed.
Common thoughts during this stage:
- “I should totally tell Paul I still have feelings for him.”
- “My boss needs to know how much I respect them at 2 AM.”
- “This text is genius. I should write a book.”
Stage 2: The Foggy Realization
As the alcohol begins to wear off and your mind starts piecing together fragments of the night, a faint unease creeps in. Something feels off. You start vaguely recalling a burst of confidence that led you to open your messaging app. Maybe you even remember hitting send. But what did you say? To whom? And, more importantly, why?
This stage is a delicate balance between ignorance and denial. You tell yourself it’s probably fine. After all, you’re a fun drunk, right? People love your drunk texts! Probably. Maybe. Hopefully.
Stage 3: The Cold, Hard Truth
You wake up. Your head is pounding, your mouth is dry, and suddenly, your body is flooded with the horrifying realization that you, in fact, did send a text (or several). You fumble for your phone, desperately praying that your message was somehow blocked, undelivered, or at least not as bad as you fear.
Then, you see it.
It’s worse than you imagined. Maybe you confessed your feelings in dramatic prose. Maybe you sent a single, haunting “Hey” to your ex. Or perhaps you sent a cryptic “You don’t even know” to someone who now has questions. The damage is done, and the pit in your stomach grows by the second.
Common symptoms of this stage:
- Frantic scrolling through sent messages.
- Desperately trying to recall if you followed up with even worse texts.
- Vowing never to drink again (a lie you tell yourself every time).
Stage 4: The Reckoning
At this point, you have two choices: confront the consequences or flee from them entirely.
The brave among us might choose to address the message head-on, sending a follow-up like, “Haha wow, last night was wild. Ignore that!” (which, of course, only makes it worse). Others may opt for damage control by deleting the message and pretending it never happened, hoping that the recipient is also in denial.
Strategies employed during this stage:
- The Apology Approach: “Sorry about that text, I had a few too many!”
- The Gaslighting Approach: “That must have been autocorrect.”
- The Self-Exile Approach: Throw your phone into the sea and start a new life.
Stage 5: Acceptance (or Eternal Shame)
Eventually, you come to terms with your actions. Maybe your friends reassure you it wasn’t that bad. Maybe the recipient responds with amusement. Or maybe—just maybe—you were lucky enough to have sent it to someone equally drunk, and they don’t remember either.
But sometimes, the regret lingers. You’ll always know what you did, even if no one else does. The words will haunt you, replaying in your mind at 3 AM. And the next time you’re out drinking, you’ll swear up and down that you’ll keep your phone far, far away.
Spoiler: You won’t.
Reflections on Drunken Texting: A Cautionary Tale (Or an Inevitable Tradition?)
Drunken texting is a timeless tradition that leaves behind nothing but chaos, embarrassment, and sometimes, an unintentionally hilarious story. But if there’s one comfort, it’s that you’re not alone. We’ve all been there. And if you haven’t—well, either you’re lying, or you haven’t truly lived.
So, next time you go out, maybe put your phone on airplane mode. Or, you know, embrace the chaos. Either way, the cycle will continue, one poorly timed text at a time. Until then, may your regrets be minimal, and your group chat screenshots be merciful.
Born and raised in Sheffield, Kerry Freeman is an unrepentant tea addict, cat enthusiast, and lifelong expert in the art of looking busy while doing the bare minimum. By day, she works as a minion in a government department (no, not one of the cute yellow ones with dungarees). By night, she brings her wicked sense of humour to untypicable.co.uk, where she fearlessly tackles life’s nonsense with sharp wit, historical references, and the occasional inappropriate joke.
Kerry has no children (by choice, obviously), but she does have a cat, which is basically the same thing but with more attitude and fewer school runs. When she’s not writing, you’ll probably find her at a historical re-enactment, enthusiastically pretending she’s living in another century—preferably one with fewer emails and better hats.
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